"What happens when we center sex? How did that become the glue at the center of our humanity?"
What it would look like as human civilization, or even a small closed society, not to center sex would make excellent fiction. An author would not have to hammer any outright comparisons home for the work to be engaging. Could become a sort of roadmap, anticipating challenges.
On a different note, I am glad you have been firm in aligning your life with what you know of yourself regarding sexual motivation. Sexual activity without desire is alien and traumatizing, from what I have casually read of asexuals describing "keeping their partner happy."
I did spend all of my preteen and teenage years creating a different world for my own stories. Tons of world building. And as I was outlining it to my mom one day, telling her about various different characters, she asked why no one in my world fell in love. The question came entirely out of left field, from my point of view. I just said that I never thought about it.
And yes, so much of asexual discourse has that element in it. It's a big reason why I feel no need to participate in asexual spaces. Not to mention the fact that asexual as a term has lost any and all meaning it was supposed to have. But I'm also a bit critical of these attraction status words to begin with because that does play into my question of centering sex and questioning which people and systems that benefits.
I don't doubt attraction does exist, but the reverence with which it is held gives it a mystic quality where interrogating the choices people make because of it is equated to challenging their humanity. However if you find yourself in the asexual camp, most see that as some indicator that you're less human than everyone else.
"What happens when we center sex? How did that become the glue at the center of our humanity?"
What it would look like as human civilization, or even a small closed society, not to center sex would make excellent fiction. An author would not have to hammer any outright comparisons home for the work to be engaging. Could become a sort of roadmap, anticipating challenges.
On a different note, I am glad you have been firm in aligning your life with what you know of yourself regarding sexual motivation. Sexual activity without desire is alien and traumatizing, from what I have casually read of asexuals describing "keeping their partner happy."
I did spend all of my preteen and teenage years creating a different world for my own stories. Tons of world building. And as I was outlining it to my mom one day, telling her about various different characters, she asked why no one in my world fell in love. The question came entirely out of left field, from my point of view. I just said that I never thought about it.
And yes, so much of asexual discourse has that element in it. It's a big reason why I feel no need to participate in asexual spaces. Not to mention the fact that asexual as a term has lost any and all meaning it was supposed to have. But I'm also a bit critical of these attraction status words to begin with because that does play into my question of centering sex and questioning which people and systems that benefits.
I don't doubt attraction does exist, but the reverence with which it is held gives it a mystic quality where interrogating the choices people make because of it is equated to challenging their humanity. However if you find yourself in the asexual camp, most see that as some indicator that you're less human than everyone else.